This is the first list of suggested resources and recommendations, which include some of our favorite researchers, authors, and experts on the subject matter of how to improve emotional intelligence and better our interpersonal relationships. Their profound work has greatly influenced us and many others.

• John Gottman and Julie Gottman

• Sue Johnson (EFT / Emotionally Focused Therapy)

• Esther Perel

• Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt (IRT / Imago Relationship Therapy)

• Stan Tatkin (PACT / Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy)

• Diane Poole Heller

• Terrence Real (RLT / Relational Life Therapy)

• Ellyn Bader and Peter T. Pearson (The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy)

• Richard C. Schwartz (IFS / Internal Family Systems)

• Daniel B. Wile (CCT / Collaborative Couple Therapy)

• David Schnarch (Crucible Therapy)

• Helen Fisher

• Brené Brown

• Lori Gottlieb

• Guy Winch

• Alexandra H. Solomon

Building and sustaining healthy relationships often involves being aware of possible unresolved trauma and engaging in the ongoing work of healing. We believe that such experiences, especially early on, can affect our ability to genuinely and authentically connect with others. Though the list is ever-growing, these are some clinicians who focus on trauma research and therapy.

• Peter A. Levine

• Gabor Maté

• Bessel van der Kolk

• Stephen W. Porges

• Bruce D. Perry

• Laurence Heller